Your trauma is valid even if you couldn’t see the red flags.
Your trauma is valid even if you saw the red flags and ignored them for whatever reason.
Your trauma is valid if it made you sex repulsed.
Your trauma is valid if it made you hypersexual.
Your trauma is valid if it made you both or you fluctuate.
Your trauma is valid.
Your trauma is valid even if it took you years to feel anything about the trauma.
It’s normal to go numb after an event, and processing it can take time. There is no limit to how much time.
Your trauma is valid even if you didn’t seek out help or leave as soon as you could have.
Even if your trauma taught you an important lesson, I’m really sorry that you had to learn it that way.
It’s okay to take time to grieve the part(s) of you that you lost from trauma. You don’t need to just “get over it.” You’re allowed to feel it and mourn.
You’re allowed to have complicated feelings about your abuser. You’re allowed to have happy memories involving your abuser. You’re allowed to miss certain things about your abuser and miss those times.
It doesn’t mean that you weren’t abused or that it wasn’t real; we’re humans and we have complicated emotions. Having happy memories doesn’t mean the abuse didn’t happen.
There is nothing you could have ever done to deserve the abuse.
Most people want you to speak up when you’re uncomfortable. Most people don’t want you to suffer in silence. Most people want to know if they hurt you so that they can apologize and learn. Don’t let a toxic relationship convince you that your boundaries aren’t worth mentioning cause the majority of people don’t want to hurt you and want a chance to fix it if they do.
Maybe you shouldn’t be focused on trying to be who you were before trauma, or if your trauma happened as a child… trying to figure out who you could have been.
Maybe your energy is better spent on figuring out who you are now and accepting that you’ve changed and that it’s okay to have changed.
You’re still as worthy and valuable as you would have been without trauma. You’re still important and worth loving. I promise.
Before you dismiss yourself with a “well I’m used to it” consider that maybe you shouldn’t have to be.
Ptsd is flinching at every sound. If it's sudden, if it's loud. Especially if there's a gesture just in the corner of your eye and you flinch so hard to avoid being hit.
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ptsd culture is being so tired of people or saying “you used to be so happy when you were younger! what happened?”
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